Archive for May, 2006

Please Help

The kind young man who designed the template that I use for this website, Thomas Arie Setiawan, lives on Java, Indonesia. 

Here are pictures of his house in the hard-hit city of Bantul.  It's absolutely devastating.  Thomas is one of the lucky ones.  He has another house in Jogja, and he is not injured.

You know I've never asked for money for my site - but I ask that you consider helping the people of Indonesia now.  The latest toll is 5,000 6,200, and there is an even greater need for food and medical supplies for the injured.  The main hospital in Bantul is overflowing with victims, treating people in hallways and the parking lot, and they have run out of basic supplies, like antibiotics.

If you need suggestions, here are some websites of local agencies who are mobilizing to help…

Mercy Corps 

Northwest Medical Teams

Uplift International

or, you can always give to:   American Red Cross

My friends in the UK can visit:  British Red Cross

Thank you to all my friends and readers who realize that we are all one world, and what touches one, touches all.


Posted by vanessa on May 29th, 2006 .
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(For Ed, who opened my ears to the power of voice….)

I’ve never seen a hotel corridor this long before. It seems as though it’s a hundred miles long, and it keeps getting longer with each step. We agreed to use the nicest hotel we could find because I couldn’t imagine this happening at a cheap, seamy place. We can’t meet in the hotel bar or a restaurant; I can’t risk being seen. What am I doing here?

There is very little in my evening bag - just my own hotel key, a lipstick, my wedding ring (hastily removed in the elevator), and…condoms. I’ve never had to buy condoms before. Standing in the store this morning, I was overwhelmed by myriad colors and textures and sizes. Sizes? Oh God.

OK, time for a mental inventory. Brand-new lacy silk bra and panties? Check. Impossibly high heels that are killing my feet but make my legs and bum look unbelievable? Check. Confidence and self-respect? Umm…well…damn.

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Posted by vanessa on May 26th, 2006 .
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I Never…

My first meme…stolen from AlwaysArousedGirl, who stole from Passionate Man, who stole from Lil’ bit.

Don’t judge me; I married young. Feel free to copy and answer for yourself. Just let me know the results!

The statements that are TRUE, meaning things I have never done, are in Bold.

I’ve Never…

I’ve Never French-Kissed A Member Of The Opposite Sex.
I’ve Never French-Kissed A Member Of The Same Sex.
I’ve Never Had Sex With A Member Of The Opposite Sex.
I’ve Never Had Sex With A Member Of The Same Sex.
I’ve Never Had A Three-Some.

I’ve Never Been In Love.
I’ve Never Had Sex In A Public Place.
I’ve Never Had Group Intercourse.
I’ve Never Been Spanked.
I’ve Never Been Tied Up.
I’ve Never Regretted Having Sex With Someone.
I’ve Never Made Out With A Stranger.
I’ve Never Gone On A Blind Date.
I’ve Never Had A Crush On A Teacher or Professor.
I’ve Never Slept With A Co-Worker.
I’ve Never Had Sex At The Office.

I’ve Never Been Married.
I’ve Never Been Divorced. updated
I’ve Never Had Sex With More Than One Person Within The Same Week.
I’ve Never Posed Nude.
I’ve Never Watched Porn. (Oh please.)
I’ve Never Gotten Someone Drunk Just To Have Sex With Them.

I’ve Never Received Scars From My Sex Partner.
I’ve Never Had Sex At A Friend’s House While They Were Throwing A Party.

I’ve Never Had Sex In A Dressing Room.
I’ve Never Flashed Anyone.

I’ve Never Met Anyone From Online. updated
I’ve Never Cheated On My Significant Other. updated
I’ve Never Masturbated. (Seriously? Who wrote this?)
I’ve Never Used A Sex Toy On Myself.
I’ve Never Used A Sex Toy On Someone Else.
I’ve Never Danced On A Table Or Bar.
I’ve Never Strip-Teased For Anyone.
I’ve Never Received A Rim Job.
I’ve Never Given A Rim Job. (Yet)
I’ve Never Received A Hand Job.
I’ve Never Given A Hand Job.
I’ve Never Had Sex In A Hammock. (Did I miss some hammock sex craze?)
I’ve Never Performed Oral Sex.
I’ve Never Received Oral Sex.
I’ve Never Had Anal Sex.
I’ve Never Had Sex involving a strapon.
I’ve Never Given/Received A Golden Shower.
I’ve Never Had Sex With Someone While Fantasizing About Having Sex With Someone Else. (Yeah, get real.)
I’ve Never Had A Sex Dream.
I’ve Never Had An Orgasm By Myself.
I’ve Never Had An Orgasm With/By Someone Else.
I’ve Never Had Phone Sex.
I’ve Never Had Cyber Sex.
I’ve Never Role-Played.
I’ve Never Played Strip Poker. (Always seemed like too much work - and I stink at cards.)

Posted by vanessa on May 24th, 2006 .
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Five Songs Virtually Guaranteed To Make Me Naked


1. Tin Pan Alley – Stevie Ray Vaughan

2. Your Body Is A Wonderland – John Mayer

3. Love Me Like A Man – Bonnie Raitt

4. I Feel You – Depeche Mode

5. I Want A Little Sugar In My Bowl – Nina Simone

Posted by vanessa on May 22nd, 2006 .
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The Conquistador

I love everything about a man. I love the way he smells, tastes, feels, sounds, loves. I love the way I feel wrapped in his arms. I love his confidence, and his childlike wonder. His machismo, and his reticence. His strength, and his tenderness. There’s really only one thing I don’t love about men. Read the rest of this entry »

Posted by vanessa on May 20th, 2006 .
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Five things Starbucks should have never discontinued

1. Chantico (I would murder someone for one right now)

2. Chocolate Mocha Cupcakes (ditto)

3. Mint syrup

4. Cinnamon Dolce syrup (don’t care for it, but everyone is terribly disappointed)

5. “As I See It” cup #43, with quote by Armistead Maupin (pulled from Baylor University store after complaints by some homophobic weenies)

Posted by vanessa on May 19th, 2006 .
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I guess I could write for Fodor’s

Today’s lowest fare from Seattle to Las Vegas (1,200 miles) is $255. Oddly enough, a flight to London (4,782 miles) can be had for $418. Considering the generous invitations and warm hospitality offered me by certain (and numerous) British subjects, I estimate being able to stay for easily three months with just enough cash for train fare and prophylactics.

Now, if a “certain someone” would just arrange for Dave Gahan to call me, I could book my excursion around DM’s tour schedule. I mean, it would be rude to visit the UK and not make time for Dave, now, wouldn’t it?

Posted by vanessa on May 18th, 2006 .
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About Vanessa...

Vanessa is a genus of butterflies. Common names are American Lady (Vanessa virginiensis), West Coast Lady (Vanessa annabella) and Painted Lady (Vanessa cardui).

I'm Vanessa. I'm always a Lady. Talk to me....

...and then YOU said...

  • Curvaceous Dee: Being happy is a hell of a lot more important than writing to keep us happy. I am so pleased for you!...
  • Pog: Hey Vanessa, Your husband is a very lucky man indeed. Take care, Pog.
  • havingmycake: Very worrying time for you both. Hope there is a good outcome.
  • Curvaceous Dee: *applauds* Oh, I am so pleased! It’s such a rare and special thing, and you well deserve it....
  • lapis ruber: That sounds a really nasty event. Glad you weren’t more seriously injured. Happy belated HNT.