Archive for August, 2006

Sugasm #44

This week’s best of the sex blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Featuring the top 3 posts voted by Sugasmer participants. Want in Sugasm #45? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form.

Top Voted Posts

How To Win An Erotic Fiction Competition (http://www.msnaughty.com)
“Provide your reader with someone with whom they can empathise, characters that will allow the reader to put themselves in the story.”

Tales From Under The Desk, Part 7 (http://thebinside.blogspot.com)
“I planted my left cheek firmly on some papers on the desk and felt his hands on my thighs.”

Turning Point (http://masterenigma.blogspot.com)
“I quickly tossed a second rope over this hook, tied it to her wrists and pulled her up until she was standing on her tiptoes, her wrists secured above her head.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Nearly Nude Modeling and the Paedophile Problem (http://sugarbank.com)

Random Selection
Polyamorous? Or just plain selfish? (http://damnjezebel.com)

Sex News and Sexy Reviews
Half-Nekkid and Getting Fucked (http://www.TarasNaughtyShop.com)
New sex toy review - Inflatable Vibrating Butt Plug (http://www.orgasmarmy.com)
Porn Review: All Girl Slumber Party (http://blog.johnqafterhours.com)
Sexy Girls Playing Mahjong (http://sugarjoy.com)
Welcome to the SexBlog Welcome Blog! (http://sexblogwelcome.blogspot.com)

Sex Advice
How To Worship My Cunt: Future Lovers Take Note! (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)

Sex Work
Dominating every male in My path (http://www.ladyevilsdungeon.com)
Not that innocent…. (http://kyliecallme.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Debasing the Bathroom (http://www.chillivanilla.com)
Fucking Mitzi (100th Post!) (http://designingintimacy.blogspot.com)
Hot Rod (http://la-day.blogspot.com)
House Party 101 (http://fourstate.blogspot.com)
I’m Back, Baby (http://suddenslip.blogspot.com)
“Kiss her” (http://tangysweet.blogspot.com)
Mirror, Mirror On The Wall (http://edinerotica.blogspot.com)
On the Other Side of the Green Door (http://www.TaraTainton.com)
Party of 21 (http://erotischism.blogspot.com)
The perfect storm (http://joeheather.blogspot.com)
SMS Weekend Diary (https://junohenry.wordpress.com)
Wild Joy (http://www.suchnonsense.com)
Xantasia Goes To Paradise (http://xantasia.blogspot.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
1/3rd Dead (http://wesleeptogether.blogspot.com)
Beach Pickup Lines (http://myhotbox.blogspot.com)
JD’s Spec Sheet vs Mel’s- his first (http://wetbeyondbelief.blogspot.com)
The joys of lube (http://www.hotcouple.co.uk)
No Picture - No Reply (http://adult.backwash.com)
Our last make-up (http://anawtymouz.blogspot.com)

BDSM and Fetish
The Honeymoon’s Over (http://redvelvetropeburn.com)
How to be a superslave. (http://www.dangerousfemme.com)
Ode To Cock Illustrated (http://naturaldom.blogspot.com)
She doesn’t know it yet, but it’s already too late… (http://everythingoze.blogspot.com)
Sleeping in (http://orgasmcurious.blogspot.com)
So glad to serve as an inspiration (http://principalquattrano.com/blog)
Webcam session with My lesbian cunt (http://www.caramelvixen.com)

NSFW Pics
Arne Jahn Fetish Photographer (http://eroticandy.blogspot.com)
Stickin to tha HNT Swimsuit Theme (http://texasspitfire.blogspot.com)

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Posted by vanessa on August 29th, 2006 .
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Why Does She Do It?


I finally had the time to catch up on some blogs that I like to read, and this particular post by O about female sex bloggers is worth noting because it really made me stop and think about why I do what I do. Why I pour out my soul and sexual secrets to the world. Why I have random phone sex…and record it. Why I remain anonymous (except to a very short list of - I hope - trusted friends).

The anonymous part is easy. You already know me. I am the woman in line at the market, at the office party, in the minivan at the car wash. I am your sister, your daughter, your co-worker, your lover, your friend. If you knew it was me writing this, would you see me differently? Would my husband be judged if his boss or clients knew? Would my mother be publicly humiliated? Would my children (if I had them) be dis-invited from play dates and parties? I can take a risk individually, but I cannot extend the risk to the people I love. So, I hide behind the anonymity of cyberspace.

The why is more difficult to answer. Read the rest of this entry »

Posted by vanessa on August 26th, 2006 .
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Penis Pumps and Hand Luggage

Since my initial flight to Heathrow did not involve any heightened terror alerts, I was able to hand-carry a couple of the glass dildoes that I’m known for…em…enjoying.  While I was perfectly prepared, if questioned, to tell the TSA exactly where they could stick ‘em, apparently not every traveler is as comfortable discussing their toys with security…or their mother.

How Not to Travel with Sex Toys 

From Cory Silverberg

With all the cyber chatter these days about the safest way to get your sex toys on a plane, you’d think Mardin Azad Amin would know better. Maybe he should spend more time on line reading Violet Blue, and less time lying to security officials about that tubular item with a grenade-like bulb at the end of it.

When Mr. Amin, who was on his way to Turkey through Chicago, was asked about said suspicious looking object in his luggage by a security guard, he must have said the first thing that comes to everyone’s mind when they panic: it’s a bomb.

Possibly in disbelief, the security guard asked him to repeat himself, and this time Amin laughed as he said it again. He later told investigators that he said it because his mother was standing nearby and he didn’t want her to know that he was travelling with a penis pump.

Thanks to NBC5.com, his mother, her neighbors, and people around the world know that he was travelling with a penis pump, and isn’t too good under pressure.

Read more - NBC5.com: Sex Toy In Luggage Gets Man In Trouble

        source - About.com

Posted by vanessa on August 24th, 2006 .
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Sugasm #43

Gee, I guess I need to write more frequently. Seems the Sugasm comes out much more quickly of late, and it looks like that’s all I’m posting! I’m still here, honest! - Vanessa


This week’s best of the sex blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Leading the pack are the top 3 posts voted by Sugasmer participants. Want in Sugasm #44? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

Top Voted Posts
Skinny Dipping (http://thehiddensides.blogspot.com)
Pretend Forest (http://xantasia.blogspot.com)
Why I’m Happy With “The Cleavage Situation” (http://lustylady.blogspot.com)

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Brian Griffin on Porn (http://sugarbank.com)

Random Selection
Self Love - Njoy (http://nyc-urban-gypsy.blogspot.com)

NSFW Pics
Astra Zero remixes nude photos (http://eroticandy.blogspot.com)
For the love of god, don’t see this movie… (http://www.internetisforporn.com)
Half-Nekkid and Loving Herself (http://www.TarasNaughtyShop.com)
Valerie Cortez (http://hotboxbabe.thumblogger.com)

BDSM and Fetish
The Honeymoon Part IV (http://redvelvetropeburn.com)
Hot Dog Anyone??? (http://www.caramelvixen.com)
Jack revisited (http://pick-up-pieces.blogspot.com)
More of the same later (http://dealing-with-domino.blogspot.com)
Small penis information lol! (http://www.spoiledebonyprincess.com)
Sometimes you just need a spanking (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
A bit more on anonymity and outery while contemplating outlawery (http://www.realadultsex.com)
How To Get Great Phone Sex (http://radicalvixen.com)
My Pavlovian Pussy (http://www.taratainton.com)
Night with Vodka Tonic (http://ohsexuallife.blogspot.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Breaking the ice, part 2 (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)
Coming down gently (http://joeheather.blogspot.com)
The dark basement of dirty secrets (http://ellabeecoquette.blogspot.com)
Five times in two days (http://justsexdrugsandrocknroll.blogspot.com)
The grind (http://xxgraciexx.blogspot.com)
Highway of Light (http://femmefataleteen.blogspot.com)
Kiss the Girl- One Last Call for Alcohol (http://texasspitfire.blogspot.com)
Me and Ebony on the Hood of a Car (throwing caution to the wind) (http://dirtydetails.blogspot.com)
Tales From Under The Desk, Part 4 (http://thebinside.blogspot.com)
Why Asian Women Really Get Me (http://virtual-sex-tourist.com)
The World Is Fuckable (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)
Yes, Please! (http://designingintimacy.blogspot.com)

Sex News and Sexy Reviews
Get virtual with Jenna (http://myhotbox.blogspot.com)
Neon Dildos and Vibrant Vibrators (http://sultry.naughtyblog.net)
“Put some lead in your pencil” is not just an old cliche! (http://www.xratedtv.com)
Straight Porn Review: Two Dicks for Every Chick (http://blog.johnqafterhours.com)

Humor
Ever read your horoscope? (http://dirtyjokeblog.blogspot.com)
Letters on chest (http://hothardcock.blogspot.com)

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Posted by vanessa on August 23rd, 2006 .
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Home Sweet Hole

After several false starts and hiccups, I’m home in the US. Complete with jet lag, stiff neck, and dirty laundry strewn from one end of my shithole living room to the other.

England was very kind to me, but I learned several things:

  1. McDonald’s food does NOT, in fact, taste the same in every country. It doesn’t even necessarily look the same. Just say nyet nein non no.
  2. There are no English people in London. If you want to see English people, you must travel outside the M25.
  3. London has a dearth of trash cans, so one must presume that the reason Londoners carry messenger bags is to hold their garbage.
  4. There are only four ice cubes in the whole of Great Britain.
  5. If you cannot finish your meal in a restaurant, under no circumstances should you request to take the remainder home with you. This is considered to be in poor taste (read: American).
  6. There will be an unplanned disruption of the London tube/train system every Friday afternoon. You can set your watch by it.
  7. Despite rumors to the contrary, one must take a 4-hour train ride to Cornwall to get decent fish & chips.
  8. Some Englishmen DO have rhythm. Not all, but some, definitely.
  9. You can buy codeine over the counter, but you have to visit a doctor to get a douche. Don’t ask me how I know this.
  10. The BTP (British Transport Police) have now been fully briefed that a buffoon is NOT an animal. Don’t ask about that either.

England, thank you from the bottom of my heart for your warmth, generosity and kindness. Until we meet again… xoxoxo

Posted by vanessa on August 22nd, 2006 .
Filed under: Random stuff | 3 Comments »

And I’m Still Here…

So, my flight home was cancelled, and I’m rebooked for Sunday.  Sigh.  So, I’m here in the UK for another week.  Guess I have time for tea at the Ritz now.  Does that mean the terrorists won? 

Posted by vanessa on August 15th, 2006 .
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Sugasm #42

This week’s best of the sex blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Now with the top 3 posts voted by Sugasmers. Want in Sugasm #43? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

Mr. Sugasm Himself
An Illustrated Guide to Nude Modeling (sugarbank.com)

Top Voted Posts
Threesome with Master R and Master Anakin (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)
“The masochist in me was screaming for pain.”

Voluntarily Violated (http://everythingoze.blogspot.com)
“The cycle repeats until the man cums, coating my throat and mouth with his sperm.”

Girls Gone Wild: Producer Going to Hell (http://susiebright.com)
“And why, pray tell, is ruination the hottest American Fantasy du Jour?”

Sex News and Sexy Reviews
Audacia Ray films her porn movie! (http://viviane212.blogspot.com)
Glass Sex Toy 101 (http://sultry.naughtyblog.net)
New Kinky Designs Added! (http://www.tarasnaughtyshop.com)
Sex Toys Between Your Sheets: Write About It! (http://blog.babeland.com)
Straight Porn Review: Fuck It Like It’s Hot (http://blog.johnqafterhours.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Fantasies (http://sensualsingleton.blogspot.com)
HNT: The Heartbreakingly Kinky Sex (http://sabrinainstockings.com)
Mom’s Advice - His Fallen Angel (http://dawnndirty.blogspot.com)
The Purple Thing (http://bdsmlover.blogspot.com)
Suck Me! (http://gentlygently.blogspot.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Anatomy of a pinup, part 1 (telling the story)… (http://retromodernist.com)
Hanging onto Life by a G-String (http://www.taratainton.com)
The importance of being “in” (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)
Let’s Talk About Sex (http://www.seskuality.com)
Male Issues & The world revolves around My pussy? (http://www.alphadominablog.com)
Past Pleasures (http://edinerotica.blogspot.com)
The Quiet Ones (http://redfrique.blogspot.com)
Sleeping Naked (http://wanklog.blogspot.com)
Stirrings (http://ladycalliah.wordpress.com)
Why do men fall asleep after sex? (http://myhotbox.blogspot.com)

BDSM and Fetish
Dominating my Man! (http://www.la-day.blogspot.com)
The Honeymoon Part II (http://redvelvetropeburn.com)
Judas Kiss (http://nyc-urban-gypsy.blogspot.com)
Met with a white boi today (http://www.caramelvixen.com)
Negotiation 101 (http://www.dangerousfemme.com)
A Pleasant Personal Punishment (Part One) (http://seanandmel.blogspot.com)
A Return To (http://fresh-fetish.com/blog)

NSFW Pics Lots
More New Nudes of Me (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)
My Friend Naughty Julie (http://www.seska4lovers.com)
New I Feel Myself Video (http://eroticandy.blogspot.com)
Nicole Graves (http://hotboxbabe.thumblogger.com)

Humor
Cumming Confusion (http://radicalvixen.com/blog)
Ms Naughty Is About Porn For Women (http://www.msnaughty.com/blog/)

Sex Work My Sweet Lil Young Voice… (http://kyliecallme.com)

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Posted by vanessa on August 15th, 2006 .
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About Vanessa...

Vanessa is a genus of butterflies. Common names are American Lady (Vanessa virginiensis), West Coast Lady (Vanessa annabella) and Painted Lady (Vanessa cardui).

I'm Vanessa. I'm always a Lady. Talk to me....

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