Archive for September, 2006

Sugasm #48

Omigod! Out of all the stellar entries in this week’s Sugasm, the entrants voted mine into the top three! Woohoo! I’m not worthy! I’m not worthy!

The best of the sex blogs this week by the bloggers who blog them. Spotlighting the top 3 posts voted by Sugasmer participants. Want in Sugasm #49? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
The Luckiest Girl in the World (http://alwaysarousedgirl.blogspot.com)
“Would he have the energy, the stamina, to make me come as much as I need to come?”

I Want To Shave You (http://makemycopcome.blogspot.com)
“That luscious plum, that erotic ridge around it, the enticing veins tracing their way up that cock I am so engrossed in…”

The Rum Raisin Compromise (http://talktovanessa.com)
“My husband did not understand why I couldn’t live the rest of my life without the taste of a woman passing my lips.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
How to Give Away Porn (http://sugarbank.com)

Editors’ Choice
Rope Bondage Images (http://www.lumpesse.com)

Sexy Audio & Video
Hear My Name (http://anawtymouz.blogspot.com)
How to Give a Blowjob in a Car (http://myhotbox.blogspot.com)
Sex Inspiration, Study & Dream - Video Blog Entry (http://www.seska4lovers.com)
Slave Girl: Part One (http://fuckingtheministersdaughter.blogspot.com)

Sex News and Sexy Reviews
Craigslist User Publicizes Private Correspondence (http://www.tarasnaughtyshop.com/blog)
Do Video Games Effect Our Sex Lives? (Survey) (http://sugarjoy.com)
The Five Best Tera Patrick Scenes of All Time (http://blog.johnqafterhours.com)
Inflatable Vibrating Penis (http://www.orgasmarmy.com)
Tire Paddle HNT (http://radicalvixen.com/blog)

NSFW Pics
Adela & Susana (http://hotboxbabe.thumblogger.com)
Ass Masterpiece (http://www.internetisforporn.com)
Consolation Eye Candy, or What a Wild, Wild Month! (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)
Featured DDGirls Covergirl Sunny Leone (http://www.ddgirlsblog.com)
Put on a Shirt HNT (http://texasspitfire.blogspot.com)
Roxy in booty shorts (http://phatbootysolos.ilovejulienight.com)
Two Bad Girls in a Prison Bed (http://adelehaze.com)
WebMistress Feature Gallery: Scenic Silver Reef (http://www.taratainton.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Adult Webcam Humor (http://www.model-chat.com)
Boobies (http://edinerotica.blogspot.com)
Erotic Rather Than Fucking (http://orgasmcurious.blogspot.com)
Phain’s Tasty Specs… (http://wetbeyondbelief.blogspot.com)
Science of Sex - Sense of Smell (http://www.seskuality.com)
Sex Goddess??? (http://thegooseandgander.blogspot.com)
“Three sex acts enter, one sex act leaves.” (http://sexeteria.blogspot.com)
The Vagina and the Douche (http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
2. Greet (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)
Dreaming of a Dark Odyssey (http://viviane212.blogspot.com)
The Eternal Hotness of Hanna (http://theholidaylife.blogspot.com)
Get Caught Looking now! (http://lustylady.blogspot.com)
My Taxicab Confession (http://dirtydetails.blogspot.com)
Room 304, Part I (http://www.chillivanilla.com/blg)
Teresa (http://nyc-urban-gypsy.blogspot.com)

BDSM and Fetish
Happy HNT-Cheerleader Paddling (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)
Lions, Tigers, and Spankings! Oh my! (http://spankingkatiespades.blogspot.com)
A Long Awaited Erotic Very Sexy Spanking Session… Finally (http://lizzietush.blogspot.com)
Melinda Makes a Discovery… (http://www.blog.sex-mad-witch.com)
Pajama Party (http://thebinside.blogspot.com)
She was like a wild animal… (http://everythingoze.blogspot.com)
Switching My Bottom On (http://spankingwriters.com/blog)

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Posted by vanessa on September 27th, 2006 .
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Oh No, They Di-int!

I have made it a rule to keep my site free from controversy over non-sex-related topics.  I don’t generally bring up politics or religion or anything else that doesn’t belong here…but once in a while I see something so…so unbelievable that I have to share it.

Maybe this would fly in Ohio, but if anyone tried it in Seattle, I’m pretty sure they would be run out of business.  One even wonders if they paid some ad wizards to come up with it, or if these geniuses thought of it all on their own.  I am shocked and awed by the sheer magnitude of their insensitivity, stupidity, and chutzpah.  Not to mention embarrased that these are Americans.

That is all.

Posted by vanessa on September 24th, 2006 .
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Wow, That’s A Lotta C**k

How do I find these things?  I think I need to get out more.

Posted by vanessa on September 23rd, 2006 .
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The Rum Raisin Compromise

com‧pro‧mise  /ˈkɒmprəˌmaɪz/
- a settlement of differences by mutual concessions; an agreement reached by adjustment of conflicting or opposing claims, principles, etc., by reciprocal modification of demands.
- something intermediate between different things: The split-level is a compromise between a ranch house and a multistoried house.
- an endangering, esp. of reputation; exposure to danger, suspicion, etc.: a compromise of one’s integrity.
- to make a dishonorable or shameful concession: He is too honorable to compromise with his principles .
source: Dictionary.com

Everything in life is a compromise. So it is in love as well, and sometimes even in sex. The tricky part is knowing which compromises are healthy, and which are risky. Which compromises will strengthen the relationship, and which will, over time, erode its foundation. Some compromises come back to haunt you when it’s too late to change the outcome. A compromise can even change who you are. Now you’re thinking, “what the hell is she talking about?”

I’ll give you an example. Read the rest of this entry »

Posted by vanessa on September 20th, 2006 .
Filed under: Stuff On My Mind | 10 Comments »

Sugasm #47

I have another entry in this week’s Sugasm…enjoy all of the links!

The best of the sex blogs this week by the bloggers who blog them. Featuring the top 3 posts voted by Sugasmer participants. Want in Sugasm #48? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Lazy Sunday (http://www.chillivanilla.com)
“I flick my thumb across your clit, as if I were lighting a match, which, in many ways I am.”

The Secret (http://confessions112.blogspot.com)
“I came back to the bed and started to lavish kisses on him, savoring the inches of skin on him that I knew were mine and mine alone.”

You’re all I want (http://theholidaylife.blogspot.com)
“Go to the couch. Bend over. For me.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
How to Cure Female Ejaculation (http://sugarbank.com)

Editors’ Choice
Fetish, Fashion and The War On Terror (http://adelehaze.com)

BDSM and Fetish
Double Penetration (Fangs & Cock) (http://la-day.blogspot.com)
Hurt Me, Please (http://everythingoze.blogspot.com)
Isabella’s Eyes - Part VIII (http://nyc-urban-gypsy.blogspot.com)
Morning quickie (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)
The weekender #4: The beginnings of our lifestyle (http://seanandmel.blogspot.com)

NSFW Pics
Asian 1 on 1 (http://www.internetisforporn.com)
Myspace Christine Dolce Nude (http://www.thesexbox.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
At a bar in a strange city (http://erotischism.blogspot.com)
Be Sure to Tip Your Waitress (http://sabrinainstockings.com)
I *not only* write porn, but I also just do it. (http://eternalapprentice.blogsome.com)
Insatiable (http://talktovanessa.com)
Just for the taste of her (part two)…and breakfast
(http://dirtydetails.blogspot.com)
Last Night (http://mandyseroticlife.blogspot.com)
Mr Henry writes debauched dialogue (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)
The Rain (Part I) (http://grlnxtdoortx2.blogspot.com)
Sexwars (http://dirtyandthirty.blogspot.com)
A visit (http://edtimestories.blogspot.com)
You Can’t Come To My Room Tonight (http://makemycopcome.blogspot.com)

Sex News and Sexy Reviews
Fat Man In A Barrel (http://www.orgasmarmy.com)
Meet the Sperm Testers (http://www.TaraTainton.com)
Product Review - Head Candy (http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com)
Sex and Booze (http://www.seskuality.com)
Sex Toys For Vacations (http://sultry.naughtyblog.net)
Straight Porn Review: Squirts So Good (http://blog.johnqafterhours.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Ewww, your parents had sex? (http://www.realadultsex.com)
Fucking To Heal (http://fuckingtheministersdaughter.blogspot.com)
Half-Nekkid and Tending to Nature (http://www.TarasNaughtyShop.com)
I’ve Been Outed…. AND I’m Back….. (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)
No Rumors (http://femmefataleteen.blogspot.com)
The origins of the cane (http://www.spankingwriters.com/blog)
Screaming Orgasm- it’s not just a drink at the bar (http://ellabeecoquette.blogspot.com)
Sex and cupcakes (http://lustylady.blogspot.com)
A Sexual Theory (http://www.seska4lovers.com)
Snip-Snip, Quack-Quack-Quack (http://virtual-sex-tourist.com)
Where I’m coming from (http://principalquattrano.com/blog)
Why do I masturbate? (http://wanklog.blogspot.com)

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Posted by vanessa on September 19th, 2006 .
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The Last Word On Brazilian Waxing

So, I realized why I got such an awesome brazilian wax last time here in the U.S. of A. Instead of beeswax and strips, my waxer used a ‘hard’ wax called Cirepil. (Note: You men might want to skip the rest of this post unless you’re investigating waxing techniques for yourself or your partner - and yes, they DO give brazilians to men.)

Cirepil is an extremely high-grade French wax with polymer in it that effectively "shrink wraps" the hairs without sticking to the skin. It gets the root on every single hair, rather than breaking many of them off just below the surface, as can happen with regular wax. That meant that the hairs also took much longer to grow back in. Cirepil is used at a much lower temperature than regular wax, which can be very hot!!

My waxing experience was quite comfortable and the Cirepil was extremely effective. I am officially hooked! Now I just need to find a salon that uses Cirepil in or around Hertfordshire…

Posted by vanessa on September 14th, 2006 .
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Sugasm #46

The best of the sex blogs this week by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts voted by Sugasmer participants. Want in Sugasm #47? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Body Image & Sex Work (http://lipstickexplosion.com)
“Then, I thought about myself in that playspace, obsessing over how to present my body, while the client, evidently, was enthralled.”

The Fever is Real (http://theholidaylife.blogspot.com)
“This was Dior’s way to lay down the gauntlet for Matthew… ‘I’m ready. I’m hot. I’m panting with desire. I’m gorgeous and sexy - come fuck me.’”

Just What You’re Missing (http://sabrinainstockings.com)
“That’s when I lean forward and kiss along your jawline… slow hungry pressings of soft lips and hot breath with just the barest hint of tongue.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Book Review: ‘Fresh: Girls of Seduction’ by Dave Naz (http://sugarbank.com)

Editors’ Choice
Having Myself All to Myself (http://www.TaraTainton.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Second Week Without a Functional Computer Of My Own….. (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)
Where are the manners? (http://cuntinglinguist.blogspot.com)
Would you sleep with a virgin? (http://edinerotica.blogspot.com)

Sex Work
Panty Tree (http://radicalvixen.com/blog)

Sex News and Sexy Reviews
Clone A Willy Moulding Vibrator Kit (http://www.orgasmarmy.com)
The Man With Two Penises (http://www.quirkysex.com/blog)
Sex Toy Designer Spotlight: Lelo Interview (http://sultry.naughtyblog.net)
The Three Best Girl-on-Girl Pornos of All Time (http://blog.johnqafterhours.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Back in His Arms (http://designingintimacy.blogspot.com)
Fare Amore (http://confessions112.blogspot.com)
Grrl’s Night Out (http://xantasia.blogspot.com)
Guest blogger: “Dessert” (http://emergingontheotherside.blogspot.com)
How we spent our Anniversary! (http://dontwakethekids.blogspot.com)
Just for the taste of her…(part one) (http://dirtydetails.blogspot.com)
The long hard weekend f*ck (http://dirtyandthirty.blogspot.com)
More Hot Wife Memories (http://marriedtoahotwife.blogspot.com/)
Need (http://www.kingdomofmean.com/sheets/)
Shower in the shower (http://solostories.blogspot.com)

NSFW Pics
Blonde Bombshell Jurgita Valts (http://www.thesexbox.com/blog)
Cowgirl HNT (http://texasspitfire.blogspot.com)
Gauge (http://www.internetisforporn.com)
Half-Nekkid in the Bible Belt (http://www.TarasNaughtyShop.com)
Happy naughty panties HNT! (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)
Sexy upskirt in kitchen (http://upskirtr.blogspot.com)

BDSM and Fetish
Back School, Back To Books, Back to “SchoolGirls’” Dirty Looks (http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com)
Dishonourable discharge (http://assistantmistress.blogspot.com)
Fiction: Grocery Dom (http://erotiterrorist.blogspot.com)
How to make her body betray her… (http://everythingoze.blogspot.com)
On Shade45 With DJ Whoo Kid and Crew (http://www.caramelvixen.com/vixen-blog)
Playing hookie (http://redvelvetropeburn.com)
Sassy me (and domesticity) (http://aliferestarted.blogspot.com)
Spanking and Brass Bands (http://www.spankingwriters.com)
Tales From Under The Desk, Part 11 (http://thebinside.blogspot.com)

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Posted by vanessa on September 12th, 2006 .
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About Vanessa...

Vanessa is a genus of butterflies. Common names are American Lady (Vanessa virginiensis), West Coast Lady (Vanessa annabella) and Painted Lady (Vanessa cardui).

I'm Vanessa. I'm always a Lady. Talk to me....

vanessa@talktovanessa.com

...and then YOU said...

  • Curvaceous Dee: Being happy is a hell of a lot more important than writing to keep us happy. I am so pleased for you!...
  • Pog: Hey Vanessa, Your husband is a very lucky man indeed. Take care, Pog.
  • havingmycake: Very worrying time for you both. Hope there is a good outcome.
  • Curvaceous Dee: *applauds* Oh, I am so pleased! It’s such a rare and special thing, and you well deserve it....
  • lapis ruber: That sounds a really nasty event. Glad you weren’t more seriously injured. Happy belated HNT.