Archive for February, 2007

Sugasm #67

The best of this weeks blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #68? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
First Orgasm (http://deliciously-naughty.typepad.com)
“His thumbs begin to stroke my nipples, and I watched my breath, coming out in little puffs of air, quicken.”

It’s in the Genes (http://www.sex-kitten.net/home.html)
“I found old magazines disguised as photography and drawing magazines but were actually full of nude women and some men […]”

Why You Should Never Sit on Hotel Bedspreads (http://brooklynrake.blogspot.com)
We are looking for someone who can get a bit rough. Is that you?

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Why Porn’s Already Decided the Next Generation Video Format (http://sugarbank.com)

Editor’s Choice
Take Your Sick Fantasies to the Shrink (http://adelehaze.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
The Beginning (http://thebridgeofshame.blogspot.com)
Birthday Wishes (http://loladavid.wordpress.com)
The Black Widow - Erotic Poetry (http://eroticjournals.blogspot.com)
Correction: Instructive Desire (http://lumpesse.com)
Eclectic Slut part two (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)
Fair Play - Part I (http://lafillemariee.blogspot.com)
Hot and heavy (http://marriedexploits.blogspot.com)
A La Carte (http://confessions112.blogspot.com)
The Lilith Quotient, Part The First (http://udoj.wordpress.com)
More Interruptions (http://gentlygently.blogspot.com)
My Girlfriend the Stripper, part 4 (http://erotischism.blogspot.com)
The Sex Competition! (http://mandyseroticlife.blogspot.com

Sex & Politics
The Cop vs. The Stripper (http://www.radicalvixen.com/blog)
Morning After Malarky (http://www.jessicagoldharalson.com)

BDSM & Fetish
Escape into Darkness (http://blog.myspace.com/tit_elation)
The Golden Question (http://www.neongolden.com)
In Search of the Inner Lesbian (http://sweatshopsissy.wordpress.com)
Story: A Mystic Meeting (http://acestrokes.blogspot.com)

Sex News, Reviews and Interviews
Silicone Taffy Tickler Water Buddy Vibrator Review (http://stilettodiaries.blogspot.com)

NSFW Pics (& videos)

Happy HNT - Valentine’s thumbcuffs (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)
Lady Dalbin - On the Waterfront Part One (http://thebootcam.com)

Sexy Humor
Secret Reads: Skippy The Fluffy Fucker II (http://secretbrain.blogspot.com)
Uniform Fetish (http://spankingwriters.com/blog)
What If? Part 1 (http://principalquattrano.com/blog)

Sex Work
Danni’s pics and his crush on danika! (http://www.princessmorgan.net)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
10 Reasons to Masturbate (as if you needed any) (http://edinerotica.blogspot.com)
I Got Some Amazing Comments (http://wecouldbenaked.blogspot.com)
Of Floggers and Fire Escapes (http://talktovanessa.com)
Selfish (http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com)

Sex Blogging/Sex Writing
The Affair (http://blog.myspace.com/deannadahlsad)
The POD Stigma (Or Scratching the Self-Published Itch) (http://www.writingup.com/blog/dark_blue)

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Posted by vanessa on February 26th, 2007 .
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Sugasm #66

The best of this weeks blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #67? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Black Tie Optional; Cleavage Required. (http://middleurge.blogspot.com)
“It had been so long since she’d worn something like this, I had to keep checking in and making sure she was really comfortable with appearing in public looking this… well, sexy.”

Don’t Be A Blog Playa (http://marketingwhore.naughtyblog.net)
“Blogging is often treated like dating, where folks fall in love with setting it up, posting some ramblings, and when no one gushes and fawns all over them, they move onto the next one.”

Eclectic Slut part one (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)
“As we lay, limbs entwined and tangled, realising that we couldn’t stop touching each other even for a second, the conversation returned to one we’d started earlier… about control and submission.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
5 Ways to Keep Your Blog Off Digg (http://sugarbank.com)

Editor’s Choice
The Shirt… (http://ellesnovellas.blogspot.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Green with envy (http://hard-and-fast.blogspot.com)
Judgment Call (http://lafillemariee.blogspot.com)
Originality, Fellatio and the Chicago Bears (http://lostinperversion.com)
Random Things (http://aslipofagirl.blogspot.com)
Smut, politics, and community and a little story called “Auschwitz Blowjob” (http://lustylady.blogspot.com)
Tit-Elation (http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com)
Valentine’s Day Is on the Way (http://www.taratainton.com)
When In Doubt, Refer To #2 (http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com)

NSFW Pics (& videos)
Bad Girl HNT (http://stilettodiaries.blogspot.com)
Charly & Klara (video) (http://myhotbox.blogspot.com)
Cockslut Column #2 (http://themilfblog.blogspot.com)
Finally Did a Naked Photoshoot (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)
Half-Nekkid Cleavage (http://www.tarasnaughtyshop.com)
Nora Marlo New Nude Photos (http://eroticandy.blogspot.com)

Sex News, Reviews and Interviews
Masturbation Interview (http://sabrinainstockings.com)
Review: Best American Erotica (http://www.radicalvixen.com/blog)
Waterproof iVibe Rabbit Vibrator Review (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)

Sex Work
Outcall (http://thismuse.blogspot.com)

BDSM and Fetish
Breast stroke, cane strokes (http://pandorablake.blogspot.com)
Douleur érotique (http://dopaminedreams.blogspot.com)
Esmerelda (http://blog.myspace.com/tit_elation)
The Foundry (http://blog.atlantabondage.com)
So Good I’m Boring! (http://emiliegirl.livejournal.com)
What you can do to please me (http://principalquattrano.com/blog)

Sex (and Sex Blog) Advice
Cracked Jaw (http://inkserotica.daria.be)
Reader: What’s your take on love? (http://smutandsteff.com)
The Sheep from the Goats (http://alwaysarousedgirl.blogspot.com)

Sex & Politics
Jon Stewart on Ted Haggard (http://dausa.blogspot.com)
When is it Rape? (http://deliciously-naughty.typepad.com/my_weblog)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Awoken by the beast (http://dirtylittlecockslut.blogspot.com)
Breaking the Ice (http://loladavid.wordpress.com)
First AFF Adventure, Pt. 2 (http://unfetteredcravings.blogspot.com)
Mind Play - An Erotic Poem (http://eroticjournals.blogspot.com)
What Man Turns Down Two Women? (http://fourstate.blogspot.com)
Yeah, it’s a little stiff. (http://gentlygently.blogspot.com)

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Posted by vanessa on February 16th, 2007 .
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Sugasm #65

The best of this weeks blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #66? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Motel Meeting (http://lafillemariee.blogspot.com)
“As always though, coming together for us meant first holding, then kissing, groping, stroking, and suddenly, there we were, as always, naked, lying together, limbs intertwined on DG’s bed under the cozy, thick white duvet.”

My breasts are not safe for work - welcome to the pink ghetto (http://lustylady.blogspot.com)
“I love to find out things about people’s sex lives and thinking about sex that make me see them, and the topic at hand, in a new light, and often I learn about myself that way.”

Richard Evans Lee
(http://www.sex-kitten.net)
“An increase in sexual empathy. Being able to put yourself in the other person’s heart would curb everything from infidelity to homophobia.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sexual Chocolate (http://sugarbank.com)

Editor’s Choice
Midnight Conversations at the Tick Tock Diner (http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Decay (http://blog.myspace.com/tit_elation)
Fuck Me First (http://loladavid.wordpress.com)
Hands (http://onlyamirage.blogspot.com)
Heels, Stockings, Girdle, Bra, Face (http://aslipofagirl.blogspot.com)
Horny… Period! (http://dirtydetails.blogspot.com)
How Hip Swingster Got His Groove Back (http://fourstate.blogspot.com)
Reluctant Mary - Part Two (http://eroticjournals.blogspot.com)
Sex Party Redux (http://plum001.blogspot.com)
Trade (http://turnthelampsdownlow.wordpress.com)

Sex Advice, News, Reviews and Interviews
33 Days, 33 Posts: Prologue, or, This Is Gonna Hurt (http://dausa.blogspot.com)
Apple, sex toys and the genesis of the iPhone Vibrator (http://sextoysinsider.com)
Reader: But Will She Love My Penis? (http://smutandsteff.com)
Taco Tuesday: Toy Review 1 (http://themilfblog.blogspot.com)

BDSM and Fetish
Anxious Fuck (http://dirtylittlecockslut.blogspot.com)
Caution! The Story You Are About To Enjoy Is Extremely Hot - Part Two (http://stilettodiaries.blogspot.com)
Introducing Prisoner #4228 (http://pandorablake.blogspot.com)
The Itch, Part The Last (http://udoj.wordpress.com)
Little Miss Sunshine (http://sweatshopsissy.wordpress.com)
Meeboguest confesses: “I have been a bad boy again…” (http://anawtymouz.blogspot.com)
Quiet The Hum Part Five (http://kissingcorporalkate.wordpress.com)
Spanking on Honeymoon (http://www.spankingwriters.com/blog)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Being Bisexual (http://eroticawriter.blogspot.com)
Cop a Feel, Show Me the Love (http://middleurge.blogspot.com)
Eyes Wide Open for Sexual Possibility (http://www.taratainton.com)
The Feminist Who Wanted to Be Fucked Like a Whore (http://brooklynrake.blogspot.com)
How About Now? (http://thismuse.blogspot.com)
Polyamory: The Great Sexual Alternative Lifestyle (http://www.model-chat.com)

Sex Work
A Lackluster Coming Out (http://www.radicalvixen.com/blog)

Sexy Humor
Meow (http://hard-and-fast.blogspot.com)
Seduction Outtake #17 (http://sabrinainstockings.com)
Who would YOU want to make submit? (http://principalquattrano.com)

NSFW Pics (& videos)
Angela Taylor Naked (http://eroticandy.blogspot.com)
Beautiful french maid upskirt (http://upskirtr.blogspot.com)
For Odysseus Love, Penelope (http://marriedexploits.blogspot.com)
Happy HNT - Dungeon Bondage Chair (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)
January’s Cartoon Babe of the Month! (http://secretbrain.blogspot.com)
Slaving Away (http://kitchen-girls.blogspot.com)
Stella & Sandra (movie) (http://myhotbox.blogspot.com)

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Posted by vanessa on February 11th, 2007 .
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Of Floggers and Fire Escapes

Mistress and Slave So, I’m watching a fetish show on TV last night. Turns out there is a Bed & Breakfast near London-Stansted airport with a fetish theme. (£170 per night, phone 07966 490748 and ask for Diane.)

Anyhooo…one of the couples was a dreadlocked dominatrix and her leash-bound, leather-hooded slave, and they were staying in the special suite outfitted with lots of BDSM equipment. Mistress had a lovely satin-covered canopy bed replete with plenty of hooks, loops, chains and other accoutrements, and slave had a cage to sleep in.

The cage was long enough for slave to stretch out, and about 4 feet high and 4 feet wide. Slave put his arms back through the bars, and Mistress placed his handcuffs on outside the bars so that slave couldn’t move around inside the cage.

I turned to my sweetie and said “What if there was a fire overnight? He wouldn’t be able to get out!”

What does this say about me?

Posted by vanessa on February 9th, 2007 .
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Spammers Can Lick My Cat’s Ass

Suspended

This was me, just a few hours ago.

I woke up this morning to find that my entire site had been suspended. Turns out some asshat had been using the “contact me” form to turn my site into a spam relay. The worst part was, my host (id-May ase-Phay dot om-cay) seemed to think that I was the criminal and locked me out completely so that I had no way of fixing it, then proceeded to ask what I was planning on doing to fix it.

Right.

So, after I explained exactly where I thought their heads were placed anatomically, they let me back in to my control panel. I removed the contact form, and I hope I solved the problem. Unfortunately, this means that if you want to contact me privately, you have to send me a mail to Vanessa (at talktovanessa.com). Sorry for the extra step, but I don’t have any choice. Until I can get a secure contact form (is there one?) it has to go via email.

Here’s the thing. Spammers wouldn’t spam if they didn’t think they would make money. They wouldn’t make money if the Nigerian Viagra peddlers didn’t pay them per hit. And the Nigerian Viagra peddlers wouldn’t pay them per hit if people didn’t buy their crap. (Personally, I think the Nigerian people are getting a bad rap all because of a few asshats).

Are you buying their crap? I’m sure not buying their crap. Who in hell is buying this crap? Any people, and I use the term loosely, who agree to give these guys so much as one thin dime, are the entire reason spam exists. We could wipe spam out tomorrow if nobody bought their crap anymore.

Listen To Vanessa: Don’t Buy This Crap!!!

Posted by vanessa on February 7th, 2007 .
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Sugasm #63

Yeah, I know it’s out of order.  Somehow I skipped a Sugasm.  Forgive me?

The best of this weeks blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #64? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
That sound (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)
All she wanted was a cold drink when she woke up (http://thebinside.blogspot.com)
Once, a long time ago (http://excessesofabasement.blogspot.com)

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Angelina Jolie’s Real Marvelous Breasts (http://sugarbank.com)

Editor’s Choice
What Really Really Sucks (http://alwaysarousedgirl.blogspot.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Begging for it (http://dirtylittlecockslut.blogspot.com)
Cheerleading Camp (http://lostinperversion.com)
Chicago! (http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com)
Release (http://pick-up-pieces.blogspot.com)
Sex with D (http://plum001.blogspot.com)
Use Me Up (an RPG) (http://femmefataleteen.blogspot.com)
The Workout (http://eroticjournals.blogspot.com)

Sex and Politics

Michigan: Adultery Punishable By Life Behind Bars (http://smutandsteff.com)

Sex News, Reviews and Interviews
The Eroticism of Dance: Matthew Bourne’s ‘Swan Lake’ (http://adelehaze.com)
Interview with a Masturbator (http://masturbationblogs.blogspot.com)
Stunt Cock Casting Call (http://www.lovehoney.co.uk)
Ultime G-Spot Vibrator Review (http://stilettodiaries.blogspot.com)

Sex Work
Devoted Pets Learn To Adjust Their Lives For Princess (http://www.phonesexsub.com/brat_blog/)
My Wonderful Adult Life (http://www.model-chat.com)
Sexy Sausages And Scary STDs (http://radicalvixen.com/blog)

BDSM and Fetish
Canings for a good cause (http://pandorablake.blogspot.com)
Happy HNT - Spank me panties and threesome fun (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)
Is it Friday yet? (http://vanillaedge.wordpress.com)
Morning canings at school, re-visited (http://www.spankingwriters.com/blog)
No cane, no pain, no gain! (http://blog.sex-mad-witch.com)
Spanking the Monkey!! (http://theriverdalegoddess.typepad.com)
Yes Sir (http://www.suzanneportnoy.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
A Niners Tale For the Feminists (http://loladavid.wordpress.com)
Of My Untried Fantasies, and Many Other Thoughts (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)
Sestina for Zoe (http://sweatshopsissy.wordpress.com)
Thoughts on Monogamy (http://deliciously-naughty.typepad.com)

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Posted by vanessa on February 5th, 2007 .
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Sugasm #64

The best of this weeks blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #65? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Arrogant Penis (http://www.sex-kitten.net)
“When I start to relax, adrift in the warm comfy seas of a powerful orgasm, my body slackening (and lord knows how my face looks), aware of nothing but how fabulous this is and ready to ride the waves into slumber, he doesn’t stop.”

Bewitch Me! (http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com)
“I’m big enough to pin you down while I move my hands up and down the sides of your body, feeling its contours beneath the black fabrics you so favor.”

Unicorn Sighting, Part II (http://loladavid.wordpress.com)
“There was one man in the very front of the theatre who didn’t give a damn who heard him moan as he came.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
The High Definition Porn Problem (http://sugarbank.com)

Editor’s Choice
The Two-Client Day (http://thismuse.blogspot.com)

NSFW Pics (& videos)
Fundoshi and naked Japanese males (http://hothardcock.blogspot.com)
Getting Naked For Justice (http://myhotbox.blogspot.com)
Renee Perez Naked (http://eroticandy.blogspot.com)
You don’t have to be naked… (http://kitchen-girls.blogspot.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
10 Reasons Why a Spanking Model is Like a Geisha (but not really) (http://adelehaze.com)
I got this feeling when I heard your name the other day… (http://lustylady.blogspot.com)
Pop Quiz: Dating Myth/Reality (http://sexeteria.net)
Realization (http://thisthingcalledbdsm.blogspot.com)
So Many Sexy Memories (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)
Thoughts on virginity (http://deliciously-naughty.typepad.com)

BDSM and Fetish
Demented Game (http://eroticjournals.blogspot.com)
Four poster beds (and one spanked bottom) (http://pandorablake.blogspot.com)
Greta: An Erotic Lingerie Story (http://aslipofagirl.blogspot.com)
Happy HNT - Fetish boots and whip (http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com)
I Had a Dream (http://www.spankingwriters.com/blog)
Meeboguest confesses: “I have been a bad boy” (http://anawtymouz.blogspot.com)
Plotting My Next Tryst Part IV (http://www.taratainton.com)
Realization (http://thisthingcalledbdsm.blogspot.com)
Red Satin Bustier (http://sweatshopsissy.wordpress.com)

Sex News, Reviews and Interviews
Product Review - iBuzz (http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Beautiful Cock (http://lafillemariee.blogspot.com)
Bend Over The Chair Part 2 (http://mandyseroticlife.blogspot.com)
Bewitch Me! (http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com)
Caught in a Dream (http://dirtylittlecockslut.blogspot.com)
Countdown pt. 2 (http://themilfblog.blogspot.com)
Exploring, Experimenting and Losing Control (http://junohenry.wordpress.com)
Forbidden Fruit is in Season (http://sexandtheivy.com)
His Turn Now (Part III)–Driving (http://pick-up-pieces.blogspot.com)
The Itch, Part The Fourth (http://udoj.wordpress.com)
Me, her, and him 5 (http://erotischism.blogspot.com)
Reminiscing (http://edinerotica.blogspot.com)
Squirting like never before (http://plum001.blogspot.com)
Sucking Cock (http://bimale.thumblogger.com)
Unicorn Sighting, Part II (http://loladavid.wordpress.com)

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Posted by vanessa on February 1st, 2007 .
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About Vanessa...

Vanessa is a genus of butterflies. Common names are American Lady (Vanessa virginiensis), West Coast Lady (Vanessa annabella) and Painted Lady (Vanessa cardui).

I'm Vanessa. I'm always a Lady. Talk to me....

vanessa@talktovanessa.com

...and then YOU said...

  • Curvaceous Dee: Being happy is a hell of a lot more important than writing to keep us happy. I am so pleased for you!...
  • Pog: Hey Vanessa, Your husband is a very lucky man indeed. Take care, Pog.
  • havingmycake: Very worrying time for you both. Hope there is a good outcome.
  • Curvaceous Dee: *applauds* Oh, I am so pleased! It’s such a rare and special thing, and you well deserve it....
  • lapis ruber: That sounds a really nasty event. Glad you weren’t more seriously injured. Happy belated HNT.