Fear and Loathing: My experience with male entitlement and sexual harassment

WARNING: THIS POST MAY CONTAIN TRIGGERING MATERIAL

An upcoming post by my good friend Epiphora made me start thinking about my own personal past experiences with male entitlement.  Before reading her post I never thought I had run into any harassment from men and was quite thankful for it, but after reading, I realized that I had been repressing certain past events or even erasing whole parts of them to paint a prettier picture.  Therefore, I decided that I needed to speak out about these acts, for myself and for other women who have experienced the same.

Event #1: Asshole Concert-Going Guy

I was at a show in 2004 (I was 15 at the time) at about this time of year with a small group of friends.  We got let in early because one of my friends had dated the security guy.  It was a relatively small venue as it held only 400 people at maximum capacity, so we pressed ourselves against the stage waiting for the waves of people that would eventually crush us.  Somehow I end up in front of a guy who seemed nice – not overly good looking, but he was “normal” looking and was with a couple of friends.  However, I soon realized he was drunk.  This guy wasn’t just your average fumbling drunk though, he definitely had a routine that he had practiced before.

As the show started the crowd pushed forward, so in what I at first thought was a good gesture he stood behind me, planting on hand on the stage as to prevent people from completely crushing me making it difficult to breath (which I soon found out was something I much preferred to this asshole).  After a few minutes he wrapped the other free arm (the left, yes, I still remember) around my waist.  I thought, “Okay, whatever, just to keep me from falling over.”  Soon I heard him laughing and mumbling something to his friend, which I later found out was a bet to get me to have sex with him by the end of the night.  The next 45 minutes to an hour were filled with this guy not-so-subtlety trying to get his hands up my shirt and down my pants.  I’m not sure what he thought this would accomplish considering we were in a room full of 400 people.

Luckily, I eventually got the attention of my friend Christie and she came over and pulled me out of there.

While it was going on I was scared shitless.  This was my first encounter with harassment, and to be honest I didn’t even know how big a deal it was until recently thinking about it and writing this.  I was a victim.  Just because he never got to rape me (as I’m sure he would have) doesn’t mean that I was any less objectified and abused.  I now realize this and am better for it.

Event #2: Mr. “All women should bow to me”

While this case is nowhere near the first one I have presented here I think it is still relevant to the post.  I went to Mexico for two months in 2006 on a study abroad program.  It was absolutely fabulous, but what wasn’t fabulous was a certain guy’s sense of entitlement and his idea that all American women are “sluts.”

He was a good friend of my host brother who I had met a couple of times, and oddly enough I have no hard feelings against him even though I should.  José Pablo was probably not a bad guy, but through an injection of machismo they must be giving every Mexican boy at birth, he thought he was the gift to women that we all needed.  One day when my host parents weren’t home my host brother brought him over and we chatted for a while, but something was odd – You know those smiles guys have on their face when they are scanning you up and down like a piece of meat?  Yeah, he had one.  But I was so used to the construction workers yelling obscene things in bad English to me on the streets that I ignored it.

Little did I know that my host brother had been “commissioned” to play matchmaker.  Matchmaker not so much – it seemed like he was more my pimp than anything else.  Against the rules of my program I got in the car with them and drove around.  The time I started to get nervous was when I noticed we were going up into the mountains which are very sparsely populated with absolutely nothing in them – why were they taking me there?

We got out of the car, José Pablo tried to get me to smoke, I said no thanks and he automatically called me “fresa,” which in a nutshell is high-class, stuck-up, not giving up anything to just any guy.  Yeah, we were already off to a bad start.  After that he pushed me up against a wall and started kissing me.  I honestly wasn’t too into it, but figured it would be easier to go along with it than tell him no – besides, it was only kissing, right?

Well, soon my host brother got tossed the keys to the guy’s car and was told he could drive away for a while.  Keep in mind that none of this was done with me in the conversation – I was standing right there, but they acted like I was some kind of property.  Soon, I got scared.  I was alone in this isolated place, up against a wall with a guy I barely knew who obviously wanted more than I did.  Thankfully, he didn’t do any more than kiss me, for the moment.  We went back home and I got ready to go out with friends.

Later that night I was out with my friends for dinner and he came by and dropped me a phone without saying anything.  The first thought in my head, “Oh fuck.  Not this shit.”  He then called me and asked me to come outside – I found him there on the sidewalk with my host brother asking me to get in the car.  This time I tried to stand up for myself and say that I didn’t want to go with him.  I went back inside and finished out the night.  When I was done I went over to my host grandmother’s house waiting for my mom to come pick me up, but the thing is, my host brother had called my mom and said to pick me up at José Pablo’s house an hour later.

He ended up getting me on the couch and repeated trying to get my underwear off (I was wearing a skirt) even though I was plainly saying no.  He then couldn’t believe that I didn’t at least want to give him a blowjob.  A few minutes later my mom showed up to get me, I’d never been more relieved to see her.

In conclusion

I’m fortunate enough to currently be in a stable, loving relationship with a guy who sees me as more than just a piece of meat.  I’m also fortunate that the worst didn’t happen in those situations and that I wasn’t raped.  But the fear I felt was defintely real.

If you’ve ever had anything similar happen to you, please speak up and write about it.  This happens more than we care to believe and until women start voicing what has happened, it won’t stop.

Review: Close2You Sinfonia

Close2You is a new German brand that bases a lot of its designs and names on things in music.  And honestly, if you can get past the really ridiculous name, they seem to have quality toys.

I chose to get the Sinfonia, which is marketed as a g-spot vibrator, but probably the oddest looking g-spot vibrator I’ve ever seen.  Therefore, I was really skeptical about whether or not it would actually work for me.  However, I was pleasantly surprised that the Sinfonia is not a complete failure as a vibrator.

Firstly, I should mention the Sinfonia is silicone.  The silicone is soft, supple and velvety – a lot like another German company, Fun Factory.  Even the plastic of the battery cap is velvet coted so the entire toy feels smooth.  Because of this you should use only water-based lube with the toy so it doesn’t erode.  Also, since it has plastic and mechanical parts you can’t boil it.  If you feel the need to sterilize it, wipe it down with a 1 part bleach, 9 parts water solution and rinse clean.

Performance:

The Sinfonia definitely has a lot more positives than negatives.  First of all, it’s tapered shape makes it ideal for someone who doesn’t have much experience with penetration or just for warming up.  It also makes an ideal clitoral stimulator as the vibrations in the tip are very pinpoint.

G-spot stimulation is possible, but it doesn’t provide the kind of pressure I need to squirt.  It’s more or less just a light brushing of the g-spot, which feels really nice.  I was worried that because of the shape it was going to poke my g-spot into submission, but the silicone is soft enough that poking wasn’t a problem.

The functions are pretty fucking cool.  At least they’re different than the normal pulsating and vibrating settings of most vibrators.  Some of them are a little erratic because they’re trying to be so different, but I assume there’s a person out there who would like all of them.

The controls are easy to push, but aren’t something you’re going to brush over and change without meaning to.  There is an on/off and then another button that cycles through all the patterns.  It’s pretty much as basic as controls can get while still having different functions.

Overall:

While I’m not worshiping the Sinfonia at the alter, it’s definitely not a bad vibrator.  It also comes with a nice box and a lot of extras like lube, a toy cleaning wipe, a pouch, product manual and a silicone cock ring.  If you’re looking for something with a different shape you could always give the Sinfonia a try.  It has quite a few redeeming qualities, but don’t look for it to give you your next g-spot orgasm.

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G-spot vibrator by Close2You
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This product was provided free of charge to the reviewer.

Review: Better Than Chocolate

When EdenFantasys gave me the opportunity to review the Better Than Chocolate I had mixed feelings.  I’ve read some really awesome reviews of the BTC and then some reviews that stated the BTC was alittle lacking in power.  Nevertheless I decided that I should at least try it for myself and see what the fuss is about, so I accepted the offer.

The Better Than Chocolate is a clitoral stimulator made of TPE by a new company called Nomi Tang.  It is controlled with a touch-strip (think like an iPod) and has some variance in vibration levels as well as a few pulsations.

So, let’s cut to the chase here.  The BTC is a sex toy meant to get you off, but it fails miserably.  I turned on the BTC and was slightly hopeful and as level of vibration seemed okay for a low level. . . then I found out it was the highest level.  Yep, it starts out at the top.

Okay, so it’s not too strong, that means it would be great for foreplay right?  Nope.  It’s just damn annoying.  It’s not high enough to get you off, but not nice enough to use for foreplay.  It’s not good enough to use as a warm-up for a long masturbation session either since it frustrates me more than gets me ready for more.

The Better Than Chocolate is waterproof, but I haven’t tried it underwater as I have no bathtub.  I did however use it in the shower, which was not a problem as the battery pack stayed dry, however, the power was still really disappointing.  After a few minutes I got out of the shower and went for my trusty Eroscillator to finish me off since the BTC could not.  The touch strip is set to lock when it senses water, but since shower water is constantly moving it kept constantly changing my setting, which was beyond annoying.

Unless you’re incredibly, incredibly sensitive I would pass this one up.  I’m giving it a one on “vroom” even though Eden Fantasys defines a one as “Very mild, extremely low level of vibration, great for newbies, foreplay and extra sensitive areas.”  I would redefine that as, “Barely good for anything unless you’re really, really sensitive.”  As mentioned above, this is definitely not worthy of being a foreplay toy.

I’m giving it two stars since I think the design showed some effort even though the touch-slide turned out to be more annoying than helpful and the overall shape is a little clunky.  Unless you really want to spend way too much money ($80) on a toy that’s only going to sit on your dresser and look pretty invest in something more useful like the Fun Factory LayaSpot (for around $47) which I’ve had for way over a year and it still works great.

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Clitoral vibrator by Nomi Tang
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This product was provided free of charge to the reviewer.

Review: Intimate Organics Cocoa Bean & Goji Berry Aromatherapy Massage Oil

Intimate Organics is a company I’ve had a love-hate relationship with even before trying out any of their products.  I loved the fact that they have scents that are unusual – like cocoa bean & goji berry instead of the regular vanilla or cinnamon – but hated the fact that they called themselves “organic” when the only organic ingredients in their products are the essential oils.  However, I can get past that since I’m not consuming the massage oil.  So when PinkCherry.com offered me the chance to review some I grabbed it up with glee.

I know some people think as we get older our preference in smells is supposed to mature, but I still like anything that smells like candy and the IO massage oil definitely does.  I had a preview of what the scent was going to smell like as I received the matching body soufflé from the lovely Wilhelmina Wang the day before, so I already knew I was going to love it.  You know the raspberry hot chocolate mix you liked when you were a kid?  It smells exactly like that, which is beyond awesome.

But obviously you don’t just want to sit around smelling the stuff, so I’ll tell you how it works.  How does it work in a nutshell?  Amazingly well.  The main three oils it’s made up of are sweet almond oil, sunflower oil and coconut oil, all of which have great moisturizing properties and absorb into the skin well.  This does mean that your skin or the skin of whoever is receiving the massage won’t feel as slippery as it would with different, less absorbent oils, but it will be slick enough to provide some glide.

For a short, 10 minute massage I used about 1/2 a teaspoon on my partner’s back.  It absorbed after that, so if you’re wanting to do a longer massage I would suggest reapplying when it starts to absorb too much.  If you just dump a ton on the person to start with it will be messy, so start with around a 1/2 teaspoon and build from there.  It’s better to use less rather than more since you want the bottle to last as long as possible.

Overall, I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend this product to anyone who likes sweet smells and wonderfully moisturized skin.  It’s a little pricey, but in my opinion it’s totally worth the extra couple of dollars for a sweet smelling luxurious massage.

Thank you so much to the wonderful people at PinkCherry.com for letting me review this massage oil.  Are you in Canada and still want to order some?  Go to PinkCherry.ca!

 

Review: Naughty Boy

I ordered the Naughty Boy almost on a whim right after my boyfriend expressed that he liked the feeling of me using my LELO Mia around his asshole.  I figured, “This is my chance!”  He said he was open to the idea, but wanted to make sure whatever we got was not too big.  Enter Naughty Boy.  After a brief conversation with anal toy guru Jimbo Jones, the Naughty Boy was in my cart, purchased and coming for my boyfriend’s asshole via USPS.

The Rocks Off Naughty Boy is made of 100% silicone with a removable bullet vibe.  Because it’s silicone you shouldn’t use silicone based lubricant with the Naughty Boy as it can erode the pretty, velvety texture of the toy.  The great thing about silicone is that it’s hypoallergenic and also can be sterilized, which is something I find to be required for an anal toy.  Just make sure you remove the bullet first if you’re going to put in into boiling water or the dishwasher.

The bullet has the option of replacing the battery so that your toy can last a lifetime.  Also, Rocks Off sells replaceable bullets, but I have not seen them online yet.   The batteries can easily be found at a battery store or even WalMart and are cheap enough that you won’t be complaining every time you have to replace the batteries.

The silicone does have a slight seam running up the toy, but it is not a hindrance.  If you have or have seen the LELO Ella, it is about the same size of seam.  Neither of us complained about the seam because we couldn’t feel it.

When the Naughty Boy got to my house, I got so excited that we almost forgot that we had to let out the neighbor’s dog that day!  We ran into the house and put the Naughty Boy to work.  After warming up my boyfriend a little bit with some oral then added copious amounts of lube to both his ass and the Naughty Boy and inserted it. Insertion was a slow process and we finally had to stop before the bump in the toy because his ass wasn’t ready for that yet and we didn’t want to strain any muscles.  After some oral combined with the Naughty Boy he experienced the longest orgasm of his life.  It was actually a big shock because it was nearing a whole minute!

I tried the Naughty Boy vaginally for a bit, but the size is too small to provide enough stimulation for me and the vibrations don’t carry that well vaginally.  I have yet to try it in my ass, but that is definitely on our to-do list.

Overall I would recommend the Naughty Boy to anyone new to anal play and prostate play.  It’s very unintimidating and easy to use, as well as easy to clean and care for.  Get your own Naughty Boy at EdenFantasys!

Fantasy = Rape? I don’t think so.

I realize by the time I write this it will have probably already been discussed to great length in the blogosphere, but I want to give my opinion.  For those of you that haven’t heard, a judge in Manchester, England dismissed charges of rape after the woman who claimed to be raped was found to have a group sex fantasy.  You can read the full story here.  According to BBC News,
 The 24-year-old from Liverpool claimed she was raped after visiting one of the men at his home in Bolton, after making contact on the internet.  But the trial at Preston Crown Court collapsed when computer evidence was produced showing her entertaining the prospect of group sex.  Judge Robert Brown ordered the jury to return not guilty verdicts.
So because this woman fantasized about group sex she is automatically not a victim of rape?  How is this logical to anyone, including an experienced judge who should be well aware that sex with multiple partners is not the same thing as rape.  This is another classic example of society associating “inapppropriate” behavior with rape.  Because the woman is not only choosing to have sex outside of a marriage, which alone makes her “unpure,” but also is choosing to have sex with multiple partners, she must not be capable of being raped.  Obviously any sexual encounter she has was invited because of her “promiscuous” ways.
Does that look as ridiculous to you as it does to me?  I hope so.  I don’t have much more to say on this subject, but I did want to call it to everyone’s attention.  If you want to read more about the perspective I provided above and the numerous ways it is hurting young women, read The Purity Myth by Jessica Valenti.

Review: Vixen Creations Astrovibe

The first time I saw the Astrovibe from Vixen one thought went through my mind – “Giant lime green dildo. DO WANT.” At the time I really wanted to request it for review, but by the time it came out I already had another assignment and therefore wasn’t able to get it.

After the reviewers that had it got their reviews written I absolutely had to have it since both of them gave it five stars. I definitely couldn’t turn down a giant lime green dildo of death that was obviously miraculous. So I put in the famous Big Order of Death and made sure I included the Astrovibe.

I also really, really love Vixen silicone. It’s some of the softest silicone I’ve come across, but still has enough firmness to keep its form. I now have three things in Vixen silicone just because I love its texture so much. I haven’t tried Vixskin and definitely want to, but for the moment I’m totally happy with the original silicone.
The Astrovibe is definitely big, or at least bigger than I’m used to in toys. It’s around 6 inches around (circumference) at its widest point. That’s not any bigger than my partner, but since it’s silicone and not human it obviously feels a little more intense. Because of its size and the angle of the toy I did encounter a slight problem.

I usually don’t have any issues with toys hitting my cervix in an uncomfortable way. Maybe it’s just my anatomy or maybe it’s that my luck has run out, but with the Astrovibe inserted most of the way (3/4 or so) it really hits my cervix in a painful way. Past discomfort and into pain territory. This doesn’t stop me from recommending it for people to try, however, as everyone’s anatomy is different and the Astrovibe does have a lot of redeeming qualities. Some of which are,

1) It’s huge and lime green, so if you’re a size queen who is bored with black or flesh-colored dildos, the Astrovibe is your man for the job.

2) It’s silicone, so it’s 100% sterilizable. If you’re sharing with a partner this is an important point to consider.

3) It has subtle ridges, so most people (minus the texture whores out there) are sure to be satisfied with the approachable amount of texture.

4) The head is curved, so you can achieve a decent amount of g-spot stimulation from this as long as it’s not inserted too deep (then it’s cervix bumping time).

5) Did I mention it’s lime green?

I’m going to keep trying with the Astrovibe and hopefully my anatomy will learn to accept it. It’s way too cool to put up for swap and I am in love with the color so much that sometimes I just have it sitting out to say, “Yep, I’ve got a lime green dildo.”

As I said, since there are so many positive reviews and mine isn’t fully negative, I would recommend the Astrovibe to anyone, but I’m probably biased because of my insane obsession with the color green.

Review: Tantus Ripple Small

When I saw the small Tantus Ripple was a free product of the week on Naughty and Discreet, I knew I had to have it.  I’m more advanced in anal play and also don’t like thrusting, but my boyfriend has quite the reluctant ass, so I needed the smallest thing I could get that wasn’t the same size as my finger.  The Ripple was obviously the perfect choice.

I got the Ripple in the mail in a very timely manner, for which I truly applaud Naughty and Discreet – my mail usually doesn’t come that fast, ever.  I showed the Ripple to the boyfriend and his first response was, “Oh god, bumps.”  He was really scared that they were going to hurt, but I insisted that it was small enough that it would be just fine.

The Ripple itself only goes up to 1” diameter at its widest point while the starting point of the Ripple is about the size of my pinky finger (I wear a ring size 5, if that helps you visualize).  The Ripple is made of 100% silicone and is from Tantus, so you know it will be a quality product.  Tantus silicone is usually towards the firm end of the silicone spectrum, which is why many people (myself included) love it.  However, because the Ripple is so small in diameter, the silicone is rather squishy.  You will have to grip it in a couple of places to get it to glide into your ass at first, since just pushing from the base will only cause it to double over.

<obviously necessary “Hi, Tantus. I love you” rave>

For those of you not acquainted with the awesomeness that is Tantus, I’ll provide you with the most biased introduction ever.  Yes, biased.  I love them and I can’t hide it, so why bother trying?

Tantus is a small company based in California that makes 100% silicone toys and also has a small line of aluminum toys called Alumina, which I would love to get my hands on.  I have only 3 Tantus toys so far and I couldn’t me more impressed.  Their silicone has an awesome firm quality that I have grown to love, but it also has enough give to be comfortable.  Even though other companies are said to have more “life-like” silicone, to me Tantus has the same firmness as a hard cock.  I know this can be argued, so I’ll leave it to you to find out by buying something awesome from them.

Tantus also has an awesome woman president who is easily contacted on Facebook and Twitter to answer questions.  She’s incredibly friendly and wonderful.

</obviously necessary “Hi, Tantus. I love you” rave>

Overall, my partner really liked the Ripple as an ass toy.  While he said it’s definitely not as stimulating to his prostate as other toys we’ve tried, it does have a more manageable size for him so he can relax knowing that it’s not going to hurt.  We only got it inserted up to the last bump, but hey, where’s the fun if you can instantly shove anything in your ass that you desire?  Okay, yeah, that would be fun.  I lied.  But it’s not like that for everyone and that’s okay.

As far as cleaning the Ripple, I’m sure you know the drill, but if you don’t I’ll lay it out for you again.  I really recommend sanitizing ass toys between uses every time.  You can do this by boiling it for a few minutes, putting it in the top rack of your dishwasher with no soap for a cycle or you can wipe it down with a 1 part bleach, 9 parts water solution.

Overall, if you have a scared ass, or someone you know does, do yourself a favor and buy the Tantus Ripple – it’s unintimidating and is a great introduction to anal play.  You can get your own over at Naughty and Discreet.

Review: Tantus Goddess

Picking a toy for my first review for Vibrator.com was a hard choice.  There are so many good things out there.  But, I decided to stay to something tried and true – Tantus silicone.  I ended up getting the Tantus Goddess for review and I will say I’m not disappointed.

For those of you that haven’t heard of Tantus, then you’re missing out.  Tantus makes only 100% premium silicone toys and they manufacture right here in the United States.  They hand-pour every single toy and lovingly etch the name “Tantus” by hand on the base.  Each toy is unique because no toy will have the exact same marble pattern from when the silicone was poured or the exact same etching on the base.  To top that off, Tantus silicone is some of the best out there.  It’s not matte and velvety like some, but it’s slick and firm which is how a nice silicone should be.  It has just enough give to be comfortable while it’s firm enough to hold its shape.

The Tantus Goddess is one of the many amazing vibrators that Tantus offers.  Tantus vibrators are made up of a 100% silicone dildo which has an opening in the base to insert a bullet vibrator.  Tantus sends a moderately strong silver bullet for this purpose, but if you happen to have a favorite bullet vibrator that you’d rather use in the base (RO-80MM, anyone?) then it should fit as long as it’s not thicker than a standard silver bullet.

The Goddess is also harness-compatible because of the flared base.  However, the flare is small, so you will need to find an appropriate sized o-ring in order to use the Goddess securely in the harness of your choice.  Also because of the flare the Goddess can be used anally.  If you plan to use it anally make sure you’re comfortable with texture in your anal toys since the Goddess is completely full of it.  This is definitely not a toy to be used anally by someone who is new to anal play.

Since I’m not too advanced in anal play and don’t want texture anally, I only used this toy vaginally.  Vaginally the Goddess shines.  The texture can be felt on every inch of the toy.  And I. love. texture.  If you’re a fellow texture lover, or even texture whore like some – this toy is going to become one of your best friends.  However, if you’re not sure if you like texture this would be a great halfway point.  It’s not the Tantus Silk, but it’s also not as textured as something like the Tantus Echo.

When you want to clean the Goddess just wipe down the bullet with a toy wipe or a little soap and warm water on a cloth.  To clean the dildo itself, you can either wash it with mild soap and water, boil it on the stove or run it through the dishwasher without soap in the top rack.

I usually prefer to remove the bullet and use it on my clit while using the Goddess as a dildo, but this is because internal vibrations I’ve found don’t really do much for me.  I much prefer a nice, steady thrusting motion and pressure applied to my g-spot.  What I’m getting at is no matter if you like vibration internally or not, need clit stimulation or not, whatever you may need – the Tantus Goddess can probably provide it.

Want to look for more awesome Tantus vibrators?  Head over to the vibrating dildos section on Vibrator.com.

Thanks so much to the awesome people over at Vibrator.com for sending me the Tantus Goddess to review!  You guys are truly wonderful!

heard of Tantus, then you’re missing out.  Tantus makes only 100% premium silicone toys and they manufacture right here in the United States.  They hand-pour every single toy and lovingly etch the name “Tantus” by hand on the base.  Each toy is unique because no toy will have the exact same marble pattern from when the silicone was poured or the exact same etching on the base.  To top that off, Tantus silicone is some of the best out there.  It’s not matte and velvety like some, but it’s slick and firm which is how a nice silicone should be.  It has just enough give to be comfortable while it’s firm enough to hold its shape.

The Tantus Goddess is one of the many amazing vibrators that Tantus offers.  Tantus vibrators are made up of a 100% silicone dildo which has an opening in the base to insert a bullet vibrator.  Tantus sends a moderately strong silver bullet for this purpose, but if you happen to have a favorite bullet vibrator that you’d rather use in the base (RO-80MM, anyone?) then it should fit as long as it’s not thicker than a standard silver bullet.

The Goddess is also harness-compatible because of the flared base.  However, the flare is small, so you will need to find an appropriate sized o-ring in order to use the Goddess securely in the harness of your choice.  Also because of the flare the Goddess can be used anally.  If you plan to use it anally make sure you’re comfortable with texture in your anal toys since the Goddess is completely full of it.  This is definitely not a toy to be used anally by someone who is new to anal play.

Since I’m not too advanced in anal play and don’t want texture anally, I only used this toy vaginally.  Vaginally the Goddess shines.  The texture can be felt on every inch of the toy.  And I. love. texture.  If you’re a fellow texture lover, or even texture whore like some – this toy is going to become one of your best friends.  However, if you’re not sure if you like texture this would be a great halfway point.  It’s not the Tantus Silk, but it’s also not as textured as something like the Tantus Echo.

When you want to clean the Goddess just wipe down the bullet with a toy wipe or a little soap and warm water on a cloth.  To clean the dildo itself, you can either wash it with mild soap and water, boil it on the stove or run it through the dishwasher without soap in the top rack.

I usually prefer to remove the bullet and use it on my clit while using the Goddess as a dildo, but this is because internal vibrations I’ve found don’t really do much for me.  I much prefer a nice, steady thrusting motion and pressure applied to my g-spot.  What I’m getting at is no matter if you like vibration internally or not, need clit stimulation or not, whatever you may need – the Tantus Goddess can probably provide it.

Want to look for more awesome Tantus vibrators?  Head over to the vibrating dildos section on Vibrator.com.

Thanks so much to the awesome people over at Vibrator.com for sending me the Tantus Goddess to review!  You guys are truly wonderful!

Review: Reign of Tera 3

Before I get into the review itself, I’d like to talk a little about the postal service. Apparently they think anything sent in a padded envelope is meant for destruction, because when my DVD arrived the packaging well torn to shreds. I would suggest that EF start sending their DVDs in a bubble envelope rather than the thick multi-layered paper ones they use. I hate plastic as much as anyone else and recycle almost everything, but if this were a DVD I really wanted and I had purchased I would be irritated that it arrived this way. The rest of the plastic pieces were floating around inside the case along with the DVD itself that had become dislodged from its place during shipping.

Now for the review – I really wish that the opening credits on Reign of Tera 3 were set up in a better manner. Since I’m not familiar with what all of the 13 actresses look like, it’s going to be near impossible for me to name who is in each scene. Also, there is not mention of the male actors in the credits. This definitely is a negative since male actors do matter to me when looking for something I’d like to watch. When looking at the small print on the front of the box you can see that the male actors are Spyder Jonez, Tommy Gunn, Scott Nails, Jack Lawrence and Jerry Alec Knight. As soon as I read the male actors I had a big “Oh fuck no.” moment since I have only heard of Tommy Gunn and Scott Nails and don’t really like either one of them. Also, as soon as the opening credits roll you can see a man who I’m sure nobody on this earth would like to see naked. I would later find out that this was Spyder Jonez, the director of the film.

For the scenes I will attempt to look up the names and match with the faces of the actresses in order to tell you who is in each scene.

In the first scene we have Jack Lawrence and who I believe to be Michelle Maylene according to IAFD. From the very first scene I determined that this movie is attempting to have a plot. The acting is bad enough that I had to look up the plot to see what was going on – apparently someone is trying to overthrow Tera’s “reign” in the “Asian Love Palace. (Yes, Asian Love Palace, I kid you not.)

Jack Lawrence gets sent into Tera’s office and there is no lead up to anything, just Jack starts going at it. And not in a good way like everyone’s favorite Frenchman, but in an awkward “I totally don’t want to be here, but they’re paying me to so let’s get at it” kind of way. Yeah, not hot. The girl’s facial expressions coupled with Jack’s cock never getting fully hard makes for a bummer of a scene:

The next scene is Tera Patrick and Spyder Jonez. As I said before, Spyder Jonez is not someone you would ever want to see naked. I don’t expect porn actors to look like models by any means, but when they look like a, according to my boyfriend, constipated walrus, it’s just not something I’m going to want to see. Looking past Spyder’s appearance, the scene still lacks, well, everything. It starts out with Spyder fingering Tera’s ass and making her lick it. Honestly, I’m usually fine with anal play in films, but this is just rather gross since he keeps repeatedly spitting on her ass. You can see the spit droplets in the screen shot. You can tell neither one of them wants to be doing it.

After the ass fingering is over, the ass fucking begins. I don’t hate this, but it’s not inspiring and it doesn’t really turn me on. At least it doesn’t totally turn my stomach. Spyder then starts touching Tera’s clit. Rubbing nicely isn’t quite the right phrase, he more or less pulls back her clitoral hood and pokes at her clit. This sounds ways less than pleasant to me.

Then we get the ending. . .a watery cumshot that looks more like 7-Up than come.

If you’re still not convinced, this is the film that gave birth to the name “constipated walrus.” I sadly wouldn’t recommend this scene to my worst enemy.

The next scene is what I call a gay-for-pay lesbian orgy with 9 of the girls. It starts out with them all throwing rose petals at each other and towards the camera. This basically sets the mood. The flower throwing seems to go on and on and I honestly think it would be boring even for a guy who just wants anything at all to help him get off. After the flowers it switches to boob licking – I don’t say sucking because they honestly seem scared of nipples. Include some nasty-looking double-ended dildos and some cheap panty-style strap-ons and you’ve got the scene.

The last scene is no better than the rest and doesn’t have any good highlights. Honestly, I wouldn’t wish this porn on my worst enemy. I think everyone should have the right to a well-made porn and not have to watch complete crap.

However, if something in my review made you interested in this, you can find it over at EdenFantasys by clicking the link below.

$21.99Reign of Tera 3
DVD by Vivid
Cast: Lucy Thai, Nautica Thorn, Jade Hsu, Mika Tan
Dvd feature: Web site access, Chapter Selections, Interactive Menus
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This product was provided free of charge to the reviewer.