Gender Equity? Sounds Like A Lot Of Bull

As I write this, thousands of Spaniards are smack in the middle of the encierro, the annual running of the bulls in Pamplona.

Apparently some women there are clamoring for their own encierro, but with cows, instead of bulls.

Women demand female Pamplona bull run, with cows

MADRID (Reuters) - Women in the northern Spanish city of Pamplona, world-famous for its ferocious bull-running festival, are demanding their own version complete with cows instead of bulls. Read more…

Now, I won’t even get into what a completely pathetic, stupid and cruel idea the original event is. That’s a whole other discussion. What strikes me here is the idea of wanting equal time that isn’t really equal. Cows are not bulls. Any rancher will tell you that. Cows are lovely, gentle creatures lacking two critical pairs of features: balls and horns. Sure, you run the risk of getting trampled by a herd of cows, but you could get trampled by a herd of anything scared and moving quickly down a narrow alley. Turkeys, even. But cows and turkeys won’t gore your sorry ass. (Or your “upper thigh.”)

But the request made me think of a larger issue: When it comes to gender equity, I believe we should demand it, and settle for nothing less. But cows are not gender equity.


I don’t believe in setting the bar lower simply because we’re the fairer sex. Equal means equal. I don’t need special considerations. Don’t make allowances for me. If I choose to compete, it will be on a level playing field.

This year was the first year that the female singles winner at Wimbledon was awarded a cash prize equal to the male singles winner. The first year. It’s freaking 2007, and this was the first year the pay was equal?

Very soon we will have the strongest opportunity we’ve ever had to decide whether we want a woman to lead our country. I’ve maintained for years that we will see all colors and creeds of men in the white house before the people will choose a woman. And that’s in a country with a female majority. I’m just pessimistic that way. I hope I’m proven wrong - though I’m not saying I wish it were with Hilary - I’m not yet convinced that she’s necessarily the best choice. I just don’t believe I’ll see a woman president in my lifetime and I don’t know how to change that except insist that we stop asking for special consideration. We don’t need it. We’re not inferior, weaker, less-than. We’re female. And that shouldn’t matter.

Keep your cows, amigos. If I run, I run with balls.

Muchas gracias.

Posted by vanessa on July 11th, 2007 .
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Making The Cut

Well, here’s another post on circumcision. This time, the issue is a little more cloudy.

Father wants son, 12, to be circumcised

By The Associated Press

A divorced Olympia-area man who has converted to Judaism is fighting a court battle in Oregon to have his 12-year-old son circumcised against his ex-wife’s wishes.

So far, Oregon courts have squarely sided with the father, who has custody. The man’s ex-wife lives in Oregon.

I’m really just posting this to get you to think. I don’t feel qualified to have an opinion because I have neither children nor a penis.


Posted by vanessa on May 1st, 2007 .
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This Post Is Entirely Inappropriate

I apologize, once again, for posting something entirely inappropriate to my site. However, my conscience compels me to use my public platform to share this with as many people as possible.

I guess I can make this somehow sex-related and vow not to purchase any sex toys made in China until something is done. There. It’s relevant. Now, just watch the damn video and do something.

The Story

The Video

Posted by vanessa on October 25th, 2006 .
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Your Date With Destiny

If only all my dates went this smoothly, Ze…though I don’t understand why we can’t take off our pants. Maybe more people would participate?
Click to watch the show…
ze frank

Posted by vanessa on October 16th, 2006 .
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Why Does She Do It?

I finally had the time to catch up on some blogs that I like to read, and this particular post by O about female sex bloggers is worth noting because it really made me stop and think about why I do what I do. Why I pour out my soul and sexual secrets to the world. Why I have random phone sex…and record it. Why I remain anonymous (except to a very short list of - I hope - trusted friends).

The anonymous part is easy. You already know me. I am the woman in line at the market, at the office party, in the minivan at the car wash. I am your sister, your daughter, your co-worker, your lover, your friend. If you knew it was me writing this, would you see me differently? Would my husband be judged if his boss or clients knew? Would my mother be publicly humiliated? Would my children (if I had them) be dis-invited from play dates and parties? I can take a risk individually, but I cannot extend the risk to the people I love. So, I hide behind the anonymity of cyberspace.

The why is more difficult to answer. More »

Posted by vanessa on August 26th, 2006 .
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Dildos For A Better Tomorrow

Hot Diggity! Sign me up for a silicone, solar-charged, fair-trade ramrod in a pleather harness with some homeopathic lube. Who says you can’t have wild monkey-sex and save the wild monkeys at the same time? Come on, grab your partner and save the earth! Who’s with me?

Erotic and Eco-Friendly
Sex-toy shopping for the environmentally concerned doesn’t have to crimp your play
Published 07.19.06

So you’ve stopped microwaving your food in plastic. You have a chlorine filter on your showerhead, you avoid sneakers made in sweatshops and you take cloth bags with you to the market for your organic produce.

But when it comes to the nightstand drawer, often all those noble and self-protective thoughts go out the window. There you’ve got petroleum-laden, chemical-leaking implements of pleasure made god-knows-where, piled on top of a mound of dead batteries and some distinctly leathery items. Well, the good news is, that drawer doesn’t have to be your one dirty little secret. At least not in such unfun ways.

More »

Posted by vanessa on July 26th, 2006 .
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They can have my dildo when they pry it from my cold, dead hands…

If I’ve learned anything from chatting up guys online, it’s that Americans are only puritanical on the outside. We all like to get our freak on…we just don’t want anyone to know it! I guess Rep. Davenport thinks that banning sex toys will make a good campaign platform. I wonder whether Mrs. Davenport is speaking to her husband right now…

Bill would make sale of sex toys illegal in South Carolina

The Associated Press

April 21, 2006

COLUMBIA — Lucy’s Love Shop employee Wanda Gillespie said she was flabbergasted that South Carolina’s Legislature is considering outlawing sex toys. But banning the sale of sex toys is actually quite common in some Southern states.The South Carolina bill, proposed by Republican Rep. Ralph Davenport, would make it a felony to sell devices used primarily for sexual stimulation and allow law enforcement to seize sex toys from raided businesses. Read the full story (and weep)

Tell Rep. Davenport what you think about me using my sex toys…

Representative G. Ralph Davenport, Jr.
District 37 - Spartanburg Co.
Contact Address:
(H) 105 Ashland Terrace, Boiling Springs, 29316
Bus. (864) 814-0070
Home (864) 578-3053
(C) 522A Blatt Bldg., Columbia, 29211
Bus. (803) 734-3098

Posted by vanessa on April 23rd, 2006 .
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