In an era of dating where everyone is trying to ‘DTR’ – or define the relationship – is it even worse to do it too soon?
Dating someone new can be exciting as you try to decipher what the other person is looking for and whether the relationship has a future.
But if you are not sure if you are looking for a relationship, or you are simply in the market for fun, is it appropriate to share this before the first date to avoid confusion? Or does this make you the bad guy?
According to a widely shared article on The Cut, telling your date you “don’t know what you are looking for” before the first date is a big no – as it “allows you to keep a foot in each scenario.”
In the article, the author describes a text she received from a man she’d met at the dog park – before they’d even gone on their first date.
“Paul let me know that he was really excited to meet me, but that he didn’t really know what he was looking for right now. He wasn’t sure he was open to a romantic relationship, but he still really wanted to meet me to see where things went,” she wrote.